Soft Boundary: “I can’t help this time, but I hope it works out.”
Firm Boundary: “I don’t lend money to friends.”
Conditional Boundary: “I can help once, but this won’t be ongoing.”
Choose the version that matches the situation—not the pressure.
FAQ
Q: Doesn’t saying no make me look unkind?
A: No. It makes you honest. Kindness without boundaries often leads to burnout and resentment.
Q: What if someone gets upset?
A: Discomfort doesn’t mean you’re wrong. Healthy boundaries sometimes disappoint people who benefited from having none.
Q: How do boundaries create peace?
A: They reduce anxiety, prevent conflict, and build trust—with yourself first.
Q: Is it ever okay to lend these things?
A: Yes—when it’s a conscious choice, not an obligation, and when you’re prepared for any outcome.
