The Team Effort Version: Next time, split tasks in advance and host together.
The Opt-Out Option: Politely decline hosting duties altogether if they weren’t agreed upon.
The Reverse Role Remix: Let your partner host solo next time—from start to finish.
FAQ:
Q: Wasn’t this passive-aggressive?
A: No—it was honest. Allowing someone to experience responsibility firsthand can be more effective than arguing about it.
Q: Did it cause tension?
A: Briefly—but it opened the door to better communication and shared expectations.
Q: Would you do it again?
A: Probably not necessary. The message landed, loud and clear.
Q: What’s the real takeaway?
A: Hosting is work. When it’s shared, it’s enjoyable. When it’s assumed, it’s exhausting.
