When you start living for yourself—not through your children—you not only begin to heal, you also show them that your world doesn’t revolve around their attention.
And often, children begin to respect what they no longer take for granted.
5. Speak to Them as Adults—Not as Kids
Sometimes, we unknowingly contribute to the distance by holding on to old patterns.
You may still see them as your “babies,” but they now want to be treated as adults. If your tone sounds controlling or judgmental—even when you mean well—they may pull away.
Try shifting the way you speak to them. Use curiosity instead of criticism. Ask, don’t assume. Offer advice only when asked. Keep the door open, but don’t push.
Connection grows when both sides feel respected.
6. Let Their Choices Have Natural Consequences
If your child is disrespectful, emotionally absent, or only calls when they need money—stop rescuing them.
It’s okay to say no.
You do not have to provide constant help to remain a good parent. In fact, sometimes enabling disrespectful behavior only prolongs it.
Your love should not come at the cost of your peace.
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